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won’t dampen my passion for children –CRS First Lady
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In Calabar, Cross River State, a
matter that was hitherto dismissed as an idle beer-parlour talk has suddenly
assumed a larger-than-life proportion. It is such that Mrs. Obioma Imoke, wife
of the state’s governor, has become alarmed, as she, in her words, is seeing
outright falsehood become elevated to the revered pedestal of truth. And she’s
not alone.
Our correspondent, Judex Okoro, reports that Mothers Against Child
Abandonment (MACA), a Non-Governmental Organisation (NGO) established by the
First Lady has given the British Broadcasting Corporation (BBC) 14 days to
retract a story aired yesterday or be sued for defamation.
In the report, the BBC claimed that the NGO compels pregnant and
vulnerable teenagers to give out their children for adoption once they put to
bed.
But a statement issued in Calabar described the report with the
title, ‘Nigerian’s battle to keep her baby’, as an unconscionable hatchet job
commissioned to destroy all the good works being done by the NGO.
“This vicious attack is absurd. As in almost all such instances,
it is not clear why these vendors of pain choose to target an NGO that has
served humanity creditably well in the past years.”
The statement accused the BBC reporter, Will Ross, of willfully
consorting with purveyors of falsehood to distort facts all in a bid to destroy
the NGO.
“Mr. Ross in his report gave the impression that there was no
prior communication or contact between him and Dr. Elihu Osim, who he
interviewed as a way of giving credibility to his report. He would want his
listeners to believe that his interview with Osim was randomly done after most
staff of the University of Calabar Teaching Hospital reportedly refused to be
interviewed.
“But the truth is that Dr. Osim has had communication with Ross
before the interview. Indeed, Ross did the report based on a petition written
by Osim.”
Meanwhile, Mrs. Imoke says the allegations against her NGO will
not dampen her passion to make “Cross River State fit for not only a child, but
for all rural women” even though she says it is demoralizing.
“This twisting of what you are doing to make it look as if you are
doing something bad is quite demoralising. That to me has been one of the
greatest challenges that we have had.”
In an interview with select journalists in Calabar, she said: “You
know that is life. We have all sorts of people and I just put it down to the
devil’s advocate.
“You ask yourself, where were they when the children were being
abandoned on the road? What had they done to the mothers and fathers of those
children who would not have them back? You know, I don’t understand it.
“I had a very sad day one day. I actually called my husband and
told him, you know what: I am going to leave this. I don’t want people writing
and talking about me. There is this doctor in the University of Calabar
Teaching Hospital (Osim), who had literally written to everybody he could
possibly write to, saying I was trafficking children. It just doesn’t make
sense. I can’t understand the wickedness behind that. I called my husband and
said I am shutting down everything. He came back from work early that day to
come and counsel me.
“How can one think about such a thing? It is evil. If you are such
a great activist yet the children are being abandoned all over, what have you
done to save their lives? We cannot be perfect but we are trying to do what we
know is right. We have young girls who come with absolutely nothing. We start
from the beginning, we buy them clothes, we clean them up, and we send them to
the hospitals to do their medicals. We beg them, it is on their forms, and our
first choice is that you take your child with you. And we don’t take anybody
twice because we believe that when you pass through our programme you should be
able to respect your body and all that.
“So you ask yourself how people come up with these things. We have
no exchange policy. We know why we are doing it. It is to save that child’s
life. We never exchange money, gifts or anything for those children. But I have
gone past that. Too bad for the detractors! I am going to do what God has asked
me to do and I will do it well.
Why the
focus on women and children?
When I came to Cross River State with my husband, I promised to
complement his efforts. The passion comes from buying into what my husband is
doing and the desire to see things better for the people.
If you know my husband very well, he is very passionate about the
downtrodden; passionate about majority of the people who are actually not in
the urban areas. He calls them people that need government the most. So he has
inculcated that in my psyche and so my main focus has been to look at the best
way to also get at those who should really experience government.
And in a bid to do that that, we decided to do a baseline data of
what was happening in Cross River State, what do the women do and the men and
so on. In the process we realized that it is very important to empower a woman
because doing that means not touching the woman alone, but touching her family-
her husbands and children. So we went for a holistic approach to developing the
woman. We have a slogan that says “put more money in the hands of a woman.”
Could you
just throw light on some of these programmes you have initiated so far?
We initiated a programme called Partnership Opportunities for
Women Empowerment Realization (POWER). It is a holistic way of empowering
women. I believe in partnerships. What I set out to do was not to teach women
new things but to help them to take what they are doing to another level
basically. 72 per cent of the women in Cross River State are farmers; we needed
to start our interventions through farming. But in the process of this holistic
approach, we have had to look into other incidences and issues that had come up
from this programme.
For instance, when we started talking to women about farming and
what to do, we realized that they were taking their children to farms. And for
us in Cross River State, government has initiated a free and compulsory
education programme, so I did not understand why they were not taking advantage
of it. So, we had to go out there and advocate for these children to be put in
schools.
Firstly, we initiated a programme called A-State-Fit-for-A-Child
(ASFAC). This again is a holistic approach to ensuring that the child even from
the womb through school years to adolescence get a total package as the
government is able to give to them. In the process of looking at Cross River
State being a society for a child, we realized that a lot of children were
being abandoned on the streets. When I say children, I mean babies, infants.
My first experience was when one of my staff called me and said
they just found a baby in the trash can. I was a bit confused. I had never
experienced that before. And I said bring the baby to my house. She called me
back and said the baby was dead. I made investigations and found out that it
was something that was common. Again, I found out that some of the girls that
got pregnant hide it from their parents for fear of being kicked out of their
homes. So, once they have those babies, they throw them away so that nobody
knows. I don’t think that any child is a mistake.
I don’t believe that God made a mistake by bringing a child into
the world. So I thought of how to stop people from killing children because if
you don’t get to the children in time, they die. I decided to reach out to
young girls, teenagers and young adults and talk to them about how to take
pride in them and not engage in casual sex or what we call premarital sex. It
was really difficult for me. So we said what do we do with them? Do we kick them
out? The answer was no! So, we found a way of rehabilitating them.
So we started another programme called Mothers Against Child
Abandonment (MACA). In this programme we have two homes which are the Refuge
Baby and the Refuge Girls. At the Refuge Girls, we keep young girls who are
pregnant and we teach them life skills to enable them live independently
forever when they leave. One of the important things we tell them, as they come
in and go through our counselling, is that we hope they would take their babies
when they are leaving; and we are willing to help them if they need help to
look after their babies.
I can tell you that the programme has been able to save quite a
number of girls and I believe we have also been able to rehabilitate a good
number of our children, young girls and some of them have gone back to school.
In a bid to do this, we thought it would be good if they have someone like a
role model. So, we initiated the Calabar Carnival Queen (CCQ). It is not beauty
pageant per se.
It is pageant where we chose someone to be a role model for young
ones in Cross River State, and after the pageant we chose our Carnival Queen.
Her project is that throughout the whole year she goes to schools and talk to
young girls about the ills of casual and premarital sex. We preach abstinence
because we know it is the only way to avoid unwanted pregnancies, sexually
transmitted diseases as well as one of the best ways of avoiding HIV/AIDS.
Furthermore, one day I was sitting in my house and my child was
sick, and I kept looking at this child and she was getting worse. So I took her
to the doctor and said I don’t know what is wrong with my daughter as her
condition was deteriorating and he says bring her in now. There at the
emergency room of the University of Calabar Teaching Hospital, he took a look
at her and said she has pneumonia. I was surprised because I thought pneumonia
was for people who had exposed themselves to cold for a very long time.
However, I used that opportunity to go round to see the other kids
in the hospital and every one of them had pneumonia. They were at least 8
babies. I was there for two hours and in those two hours, two children died.
The doctor then started telling me about pneumonia. What I found fascinating
about it was one that it is preventable and two, it is curable and yet children
were dying.
So by the time he gave me the statistics it was scary because he
said 20 children die every hour from pneumonia. Now that is ridiculous for a
disease that is preventable and treatable. So I decided that why don’t we take
this too and again get the women to understand that your child does not have to
have pneumonia, so we started a state-wide advocacy to enlighten women on what
pneumonia is all about, how to identify and treat it and so on. We tagged that
programme, Breath of Life, because we want the child to breath and live. And
that again would make Cross River State fit for every woman and every child.
Then again I got a call from UNICEF saying we have street children
in Calabar. I said no, that this is Calabar, clean and green; a tourism state.
So they said we are going to send someone to you to take you to where these
children are. They took me to the back of Okoi Arikpo House and I saw 36
children staying there. I interviewed some of them. Some said their parents had
died; their aunties do not want them; they ran away from home for whatever
reason.
Quite frankly it was not a very good sight. One of the things I
did was that we were able to give them food on a daily basis. Because they
needed food, people were using them to make money to get food. They were
running drugs. They were doing all sorts of things just to be able to make
money. So we established a resettlement home, Destiny Child Centre, for the
reintegration and rehabilitation of street children.
We moved them into that home on the 16th of October 2009, and
presently, there are over 100 children there. The good news is that they are
all in school or there are all in vocational skills training. We have a few
that have graduated from vocational skills training and we applied for jobs for
them in technical companies and all that. We thank God their lives are better.
We have also been able to re-unite some of them with their parents because that
is the end result we are looking at, and get them to live happily ever after.
However, there are a group of women that I did not really hear
much about. And these are the widows. During our last campaigns I did a lot of
sensitization with the widows and found out from them what it is that the
really needed. So, I decided to put something together for them especially in
areas where they are being maltreated or where they are having rough times. We
started an initiative which we call Giving Life Options to Widows (GLOW).
Basically, we want to not just focus on women but this set of
women who are disadvantaged just by the mere fact that their husbands died,
ostracized or stigmatized, and they are not able to access funds and facilities
the way other women do. We want to make a conscious effort to get these things
to them so that they can live without feeling that their lives ended when their
husbands died.
Culled from Sun
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