To say the environment in which we have
found ourselves as Nigerians is overcrowded with activities is an
understatement.
Having to juggle family responsibilities
with office work, and sometimes with an extra business with which we supplement
the family income, coupled with the daily demands placed on us by lack of
regular supply of power and water, life is generally stressful to many. To a
great extent, the fatigue created by this stressful environment on many has
proven to constitute a great threat to the survival of the home front.
The truth is, orgasmic fulfilment is what every couple should desire and choose to have in every lovemaking experience, but the state of mind and the condition of living of the couple play a great role in making this a reality.
The truth is, orgasmic fulfilment is what every couple should desire and choose to have in every lovemaking experience, but the state of mind and the condition of living of the couple play a great role in making this a reality.
This is because, all normal body functions
are weakened when a person is fatigued. A tired wife is not likely to be an
amorous, responsive wife, thus lessening the chances of orgasmic fulfilment.
For this reason, lovemaking should be reserved for those times when husband and
wife are well-rested and for that same reason lovemaking should be spontaneous
and not regimented.
A wife should greet her husband at the
door with a warm kiss that may predict the future. Through tender words and
touch, the couple can keep themselves in an animated lovemaking mood all
evening, which becomes an exciting preliminary to lovemaking if they don’t
retire too late. However, this is always not the case because they often come
back home fully exhausted after a day’s hard work, and with a lot of concerns
on their minds about the survival of the family.
The Metabolic Mismatch
Generally, there are two different types of people: the early birds and the nocturnal. These two differ in their body metabolism, i.e. the process by which energy is provided for their body. Since opposites tend to attract, I have noticed that couples are usually opposites in their metabolism. Early birds, whose good hours are from 6.00a.m and 8.00p.m., often marry nocturnalists, whose strongest hours extend from 10.00a.m to midnight. Consequently, a nocturnalist husband may find his motor running at 10:30p.m, only to discover that his wife, who was amorous at 7.00p.m. is sound asleep or worse, is half asleep and incapable of full response. This negatively affects their sexual fulfilment at such hours of the day.
Generally, there are two different types of people: the early birds and the nocturnal. These two differ in their body metabolism, i.e. the process by which energy is provided for their body. Since opposites tend to attract, I have noticed that couples are usually opposites in their metabolism. Early birds, whose good hours are from 6.00a.m and 8.00p.m., often marry nocturnalists, whose strongest hours extend from 10.00a.m to midnight. Consequently, a nocturnalist husband may find his motor running at 10:30p.m, only to discover that his wife, who was amorous at 7.00p.m. is sound asleep or worse, is half asleep and incapable of full response. This negatively affects their sexual fulfilment at such hours of the day.
Equalizing This Metabolic Mismatch
This metabolic mismatch is often the culprit responsible for major disharmony between a couple due to their wanting sex at different times as a result of the differences in their energy supply. It is important this metabolic mismatch is equalized for the couple to have orgasmic fulfilment. Two things can help to equalize this metabolic mismatch. One suggestion is for the early-bird husband to take a nap as soon as he gets home from work so that he can feel vital and be at optimum level of performance at bedtime. On the other hand, the early-bird wife can learn to take a nap around 3.00pm, when the children are still very young, and earlier when they are in school. Dr. Tim Lahaye once said, “Years ago I learned the secret of a twenty minute nap lying on the floor with my feet up on my bed to let the blood run back to my head. Many people have asked me, ‘How can you preach on Sunday after losing three hours’ sleep coming home from a seminar where you have been speaking for eight hours on Friday night and on Saturday?’ My answer points to the twenty - minute Sunday afternoon nap with my feet elevated; the equivalent for me is of two to three hours’ sleep at night lying flat in bed.”
This metabolic mismatch is often the culprit responsible for major disharmony between a couple due to their wanting sex at different times as a result of the differences in their energy supply. It is important this metabolic mismatch is equalized for the couple to have orgasmic fulfilment. Two things can help to equalize this metabolic mismatch. One suggestion is for the early-bird husband to take a nap as soon as he gets home from work so that he can feel vital and be at optimum level of performance at bedtime. On the other hand, the early-bird wife can learn to take a nap around 3.00pm, when the children are still very young, and earlier when they are in school. Dr. Tim Lahaye once said, “Years ago I learned the secret of a twenty minute nap lying on the floor with my feet up on my bed to let the blood run back to my head. Many people have asked me, ‘How can you preach on Sunday after losing three hours’ sleep coming home from a seminar where you have been speaking for eight hours on Friday night and on Saturday?’ My answer points to the twenty - minute Sunday afternoon nap with my feet elevated; the equivalent for me is of two to three hours’ sleep at night lying flat in bed.”
Spontaneity Reward
A second way for the couple to equalize their metabolic mismatch is to be spontaneous with their lovemaking. To be spontaneous in lovemaking is for the couple to let themselves loose in their lovemaking. That is to say, to allow themselves to be free, not to be regimental, or make love out of routine, or as scheduled. Beloved, what is wrong with you and your spouse enjoying love when you feel like it? Sure, dinner may have to be delayed a little or micro waved if the fancy strikes when the husband first comes home, but I’ve never heard a husband complain about a cold dinner for the sake of lovemaking. And what’s wrong with the children being assigned to dinner dishes while mom and dad go to their bedroom and lock the door for thirty minute to make love? Rarely will you discover love at its synchronizing watches and meeting in the bedroom by appointment or as scheduled. Regimented or timed sex is often void of excitement because it is always out of duty. Ordinarily, you will find that the most enjoyable lovemaking experiences are spontaneous.
A second way for the couple to equalize their metabolic mismatch is to be spontaneous with their lovemaking. To be spontaneous in lovemaking is for the couple to let themselves loose in their lovemaking. That is to say, to allow themselves to be free, not to be regimental, or make love out of routine, or as scheduled. Beloved, what is wrong with you and your spouse enjoying love when you feel like it? Sure, dinner may have to be delayed a little or micro waved if the fancy strikes when the husband first comes home, but I’ve never heard a husband complain about a cold dinner for the sake of lovemaking. And what’s wrong with the children being assigned to dinner dishes while mom and dad go to their bedroom and lock the door for thirty minute to make love? Rarely will you discover love at its synchronizing watches and meeting in the bedroom by appointment or as scheduled. Regimented or timed sex is often void of excitement because it is always out of duty. Ordinarily, you will find that the most enjoyable lovemaking experiences are spontaneous.
To free yourself of stress, you must
analyze the activities that interrupt or delay lovemaking, and you will
discover they are usually not nearly so important as the act of marriage.
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