They were both in Big Brother Africa 2009 edition. Then, Kevin
Chuwang Pam emerged winner. Now married to former Elizabeth Gupta, another BBA
housemate, they speak about their marriage
When and how did you meet?
Kevin: We met
in 2009 on the Big Brother Africa reality show.
When did you decide to marry her?
Kevin: I took
the decision as soon as I stepped out to the real world looking at the need to
be more responsible and focused. She was a perfect match to make my dreams come
true. I would say I am the most favoured housemate that Big Brother has ever
produced. I did not only win, I found fame, fortune and a life partner. What
more can I ask for? My wife is the best thing to ever happen to me.
Elizabeth: His
proposal shocked me because I felt it was too soon and we dated for only three
months after BBA. Initially, I thought it was because of pressure from our fans
and I wasn’t too sure he knew what he was doing. I kept asking if he really
wanted to settle down after the fame or if we would just get into the marriage
and get out.
Why did you agree to marry him?
Elizabeth: I am a
risk taker and none of my friends knew what was going on. My first trip to
Nigeria was for his show and till date, I sometimes don’t even know why I
agreed. I thought it was one of those things you do and later regret. But here
I am, happy I made the choice. It is the best thing I have done, no regrets.
Were your parents supportive of the union?
Kevin: We
enjoyed support from our families.
Elizabeth: My
father is late and my mum was a huge fan of Kevin while he was in the BBA
house. She was angry when I kept turning down his advances in the house and had
to ask my closest friends who the serious guy I was dating outside the house
was.
How do you manage cultural differences between Nigeria and
Tanzania?
Kevin: There
have been a lot of adjustments because culture shock plays a role. My wife had
to adjust a lot since she left her country, Tanzania, to live with me here in
Nigeria. These adjustments include food, our driving method, and language.
Elizabeth: I am
very adventurous with food and I cook one of the best Egusi,
Kuka and vegetable
soups. When people eat it they don’t believe I cooked it. I make his local
delicacies very well but I am still trying to adjust to how aggressive people
can be in Nigeria, not in a bad way though. Back in Tanzania, we are slow and a
bit laidback but there is this drive in Nigeria. It is sometimes overwhelming
and I am trying to catch up. I drive on the right hand side in Tanzania and on
the left hand in Nigeria. Sometimes, I go blank while driving in Nigeria and I
will ask myself what side I should be on. Apart from these, I have adjusted
well.
When you were courting, did it cross your mind that she might
disappoint you?
Kevin: It is
always possible to have such thoughts but faith always supersedes every
negative thoughts.
Elizabeth: When
some Nigerian ladies got to know we were dating I got threats and stinkers. I
heard statements such as, ‘You are reaping where you didn’t sow,’ and so many
more. These lasted for a while but it has stopped now.
Are there challenges working together as a couple?
Kevin: Nothing
serious because everyone faces challenges in marriage.
Your union has been waxing stronger and it has shut down naysayers.
What is the secret?
Kevin: Here is
someone the whole world said was not interested in me or wanted me while we
were in the House together. They didn’t see what could lead to marriage between
us after Big Brother. But here we are. She has been in Nigeria since then and
adapting very well. She is doing really well. Our union has surpassed
expectations of many.
Elizabeth: I feel
proud and happy to be married and still remain in love. Our marriage is a great
achievement.
But do you think relationships that happen on the BBA show can
last?
Elizabeth: Yes, it
can and all depends on the background of the parties involved. Unlike when you
are dating for three years, both of you get to see the good and the ugly side
of each other in the house for three months.
How do you react to tales that you agreed to marry him because
of his BBA $200,000 prize money?
Elizabeth: Initially,
it bothered me but not anymore after I realised that I am the only one who
understands me best. Whenever I am asked this question, I reply, ‘Does any
woman want a broke man? Yes I went for the rich guy.’
What are the most valuable gifts you have shared?
Kevin: Everything
I own belongs to her and the question of sharing doesn’t even come up.
What qualities do you admire most in your partner?
Elizabeth: I love
the fact that he is very spiritual and focused. He also helps me to grow
spiritually.
What are some of the Nigerian stereotypes you have dropped since
your wedding to Kevin?
Elizabeth: Since I
married Kevin, four Tanzanians have called me and they were seeking advice
because they are dating Nigerian men. We have hosted some here in Nigeria, seen
their relationships grow and now they are married. In fact, East African girls
are crazy about Nigerians.
Why the preference for Nigerian men?
Elizabeth: They
say they are very caring and you can’t find this anywhere else.
How do you handle differences?
Kevin: We
handle it maturely and lovingly correct each other.
Elizabeth: I am
first to apologise because I can’t stay angry for so long even if he is wrong.
Do you run a joint account?
Kevin: Yes we
do and it was a mutual agreement.
How do you handle advances from the opposite sex?
Kevin: You
always have to draw a line whether married or not. I guess that line has helped
us manage our fans.
Elizabeth: He
makes it easier for me because he takes me along and makes sure I know about
them. My love for my husband is rock solid.
What gives you the assurance that he will not fall into temptation?
Kevin:
The only assurance is in the grace of God.
Elizabeth: I love
and absolutely trust my husband.
Do you share same friends?
Kevin: Yes, we
share some close friends.
Who is stricter as parent?
Kevin:
I think I am.
What adjustments have you made since marriage?
Elizabeth: Priorities
have changed. Now, when there is money on the table it’s the kids and Kevin
first before I think of myself.
What don’t you like about your husband?
Elizabeth: He
likes keeping quiet about certain issues and sometimes it works but there are
things we need to address as a couple.
Do you still have date nights as a couple?
Elizabeth: Yes we
still go clubbing and travel occasionally.
Kevin: Yes, we
do but the frequency dropped as kids started coming.
How do you intend to spend Christmas as a family?
Elizabeth: We will
visit Jos and give out gifts to the less privileged.
Source: Punch
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